Rock and Soul: A Fun Season of Experience Learning and Being

In The Pink Reflections

In The Pink Reflections

“Challenge and change is what awakens us, helps us heal, grow and become who we truly are. Instead of a short cut, try the direct path to you and true.” Janet StraightArrow Be The Medicine

Greetings All, We are living in a big time of change. Emotions are high and expectations are being challenged in all areas. Its time to wake up from the old dream and stand firm in the new. Life is about the ability to respond not about what it was supposed to be.

The greater intelligence is not to follow the old program, but to be aware of what IS the program moment by moment. Let go of fear, staying in the old ways does not ensure success now. All is about being present in the moment and living in truth and what calls you moment by moment.

It’s not until we experience the journey unfolding for all that we realize how deep a sleep we have been in. There are many levels of reality occurring at once. The gift is to know how to navigate as many as you are needed to participate in.

Our work here at Oasis For The Soul and Be The Medicine is to be a support and guide on your journey. Blending pure neutral spirituality and Ancient knowledge into enlightened living in all areas of everyday life is what we offer.

Janet StraightArrow’s forty-seven years of dedication on this path offers you clear solutions and new perspectives that work for all. There is joy on this journey, even through the most difficult times.

Be-the-Medicine03-1Be The Medicine is all about You! Our focus is to support people and groups of all ages live their best life in love, health and happiness. There are many courses coming with books in 2015.

New services and classes along with inspiration are listed in the newsletter below.

Janet is available to work with established groups in your location as we put together programs and books and new websites to bring this beautiful work out for all. Blessings and Grace, Janet

Enjoy our latest News, Sessions and Classes and Inspiration to meditate and work with all month. Join us in a class or session.

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Blessings of Delight

Janet StraightArrow

Be The Medicine, Live the Power of You!

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BE CENTER STAGE INSTEAD OF LIVING ON THE SIDELINES OF YOUR LIFE

ALL POSSIBILITY

ALL POSSIBILITY

One thing I often note from people struggling with issues in their life is they are not in it. This may sound absurd, but when I ask people, “Where are you in this?” after they have given me a list of complaints, they reflect and often say, “Nowhere.”

We are so used to complaining and unhappy and reacting instead of acting in our life that we forget to put us in the equation. Living from the outside in there is no core to our perspective or us.

Taking the main stage means looking at you and how you are co-creating your life. It’s about you first. What are you thinking, doing or perceiving that brings these problems to you? Are you taking action when things do not work or wait for drama to take hold while you avoid making changes?

When we realize we are part of the problem we can also be the solution. It’s about changing you by aligning to your truth and discovering what you want and how to live it.

Its All Within

Its All Within

Begin by deciding to raise your awareness and see what you can do to stand in the center of your life. People around you are playing parts that reflect you. When you are the victim they play the matching part.

If you are unhappy or things are not working for you, find ways to make changes. Start with your focus and bring it front and center to you. We have been taught not to focus on the “I”, which is a big problem that keeps us from taking responsibility for our lives.

Look at where you are not happy or things are not working and discover how you can take action to make your life work. The cost for not doing this is depression, pain and illness as well as drama and trauma.

You are worth it. When you are a full participant in your life you can also be more fully awake in all areas of your life, work and relationships. You can be healthy and happy and it helps everyone else too. Go for it!

Have fun with it all – it’s an adventure to a better life.

Blessings of Delight!

Live the Power of You!

Live the Power of You!

Janet StraightArrow

Be The Medicine and Live the Power of You!

Call Janet today to begin your journey, one session is worth years of therapy. StraightArrow gets directly to the point, cause and solutions.

973-647-2500 Janet.bethemedicine@gmail.com

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LEARN TO ACCESS YOUR INNER NET – BETTER THAN THE INTERNET

Walking Our Own Path

Walking Our Own Path

 

Inside of us is a true connection to us, and all that is, has been, and will be. We have always had the answers inside; the key is to learn to work with the operating system and overcome the interference and objections.

 

 

We are so used to looking outside for answers, it is an adjustment to trust the new connections. There is no need to worry about being offline on the computer, or other devices; your connection is always with you. Instead of grabbing electronics, you tap in and go to your inner network operating system.

 

Radiant You!

Radiant You!

We are each brilliant and set up for this mission and have been dissuaded from this free connection since birth. No matter the objection you may engage with, the pathway is always open awaiting your call.

 

Our adventures at Be The Medicine are all about empowering you to build new pathways and access to you and this inner net and live from this place. You find there are realities that you have had access to before and now deepen them and learn to live them in your life. You find the straight path to you as you release the illusions of beliefs, fears, victim, less than, can’t and more, that have been blocking your connection all along.

 

Its all Inside

Its all Inside

It is pure delight to find that happiness and wholeness is always here as you. This is our birthright that has been blocked for many generations. The truth has always been in plain sight and yet our focus has been on illusions billed as truth taught to us at home, in schools, religions and life.

 

Waking up and finding our way home to us is the most fun and freedom there is. Having the wisdom and courage to overcome the old operation system in you, and awaken the powerful connection to true is what it takes.

We are not the ego self we have depended on, we are so much more and yet we were trained to follow it instead of living the higher self and life. Through spiritual awakening and profound simple process and tools and practices we align with our brilliance and live here now.

In the Flow

In the Flow

Ease and flow occur as we align with the truth of us and the Universal laws that are always the ones that work and support us.

The inner net is much more than our intuition, and needs understanding, clearing and refining to have a clear connection. Begin by being open to all you can receive from a place of inner wisdom. Learn to release fear and limiting beliefs and learn how to trust what you know.

 

It’s a journey of awakening and developing a new way of operating in the world. You can access others with a clear pure loving connection as well and eliminate mental and emotional interference. It makes life simple and easy with loving intent.

When you are in fear or negative intent you cannot trust what you receive as the truth is veiled by illusion and it is compromised. It is important to heal you as you awaken true.

Live the Power of You!

Live the Power of You!

Enjoy the Journey.

In Grace, Love and Joy!

Janet StraightArrow

Be The Medicine, Live the Power of You!

973-647-2500 Phone, Skype, In Person

www.bethemedicine.com www.JanetStraightArrowConsulting.com

Retreats, Classes, Private sessions all are focused on you becoming fully empowered in all areas of your life and health, success, relationships, life purpose and joy are available. Learning to work with your inner net is a process and there are many direct ways to learn to access it with confidence. Call today to begin. I meet you where you are and focus on you individually as each person is on their own journey.

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HOW TO LIVE POSITIVE IN A NEGATIVE WORLD

Its All Here.

Its All Here.

I find reality is wherever you tune in. When you focus on the worst it is, and when you focus on the best it is. Negative is against life. Positive is in support of life.

 

We create with our thoughts and intentions and the world around us matches us. Even at the most challenging moments there are good experiences to be had.

 

Negative people will call themselves realists as they tell you why life is so bad. That is their reality and they support it and create more of it as they speak and live it.

 

Imagine another reality where you see things for their positive purpose and possibilities. You will not even relate to the group that sees things in the negative reflection.

 

Walking Our Own Path

Walking Our Own Path

When Shamans say the world is how you dream it, they are speaking a profound truth.

 

As I help people recreate their life and reality I help them find where they are creating what they do not want. From poor health to missed wealth, to success in business and relationships that work for them, we recreate and tap into a reality that is waiting for them to awaken to and live immediately.

 

When you get out of the box of fear and lack, there is a big world waiting at the door for you to emerge from and experience more. Breaking the patterns of hypnotism and cynicism you find a practical reality that flows and transforms even the most difficult situations.

 

Where you focus you create and the world is full of positive possibilities and love and joy. The more you focus on victim and not, the more of that that you create. The more you open to positive possibilities the more they show up for you in surprising ways.

 

Even in the worst of times there is tremendous beauty, love, joy and new life emerging from the ashes of loss and pain. Do not get stuck in the challenge or stay stuck in the remnants of the fire.

 

Support And Surprises

Support And Surprises

Open your eyes and heart and mind to more, and life will bless you with greater support, love and life than you ever imagined before.

 

Release the naysayers in your head and in your life and find a direction to focus on that gives you more of what you want.

 

I have been through the worst of times more than you can imagine and it was through all of this that I found my inner lover, wise woman, healer, teacher and co-creator of a beautiful reality that works in all areas of life and health.

 

I learned how the world works in all ways and focused on the truth beneath the heavy energy of suffering and pain, which I now find to be optional instead of real.

 

As bad as it gets, keep your attention to a better reflection of life’s possibilities.

 

Letting go of generations of rules and punishment that make no sense is helpful. We are not sinners, we are souls experiencing life with free will to make it the best it can be, or not.

 

As a co-creator, pay attention to your words. This is what create and reflect your reality. Is this truly what you want? If it is, keep creating better possibilities and realities. If not, begin with your words and see where you believe you deserve to live in the worst and change it.

 

Its All Inside

Its All Inside

You are the medicine for you and the world by the focus and intention and energy you hold. May it be good medicine that helps and heals.

 

We have been given free will to create our reality. When used consciously in every moment in alignment with the highest potential of truth and love you soar and live a life divine. When practiced daily more surprises and delights meet you and life makes sense.

 

When challenges come they are addressed with discernment and gratitude to learn from and transform into an even better life. Living challenges and loss with loving attention and focus allows new life to rise up from the old.

 

It’s a process and an important part of the work-adventure I share and teach and live everyday. Life is good.

 

Call or email to partake of powerful new ways to create your life from your innate brilliance and potential. We find the hooks and new pathways and easily move you out of stuck places.

 

Many Blessings on Your Journey,

Janet StraightArrow

Be The Medicine, Live the Power of You!

Janet.Bethemedicine@gmail.com 973-647-2500 (Phone down till 9/10/14)

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BE THE ANSWER

BE THE ANSWER

 

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THE PATH TO PERSONAL MASTERY – SURRENDERING ILLUSIONS – TO LIVE TRUTH

Hidden In Plain Sight

Hidden In Plain Sight

Our life and the world are full of illusions and confusion. How do we discern and sort this out everyday to live a successful happy life? Enjoy this short form pathway below to begin your journey.

 

TRUST FEELINGS. Positive feelings, sad feelings and other feeling perceptions can give us powerful information to discover truth. Tune in and pay attention to what you feel and know and act from this inner place. If it feels good follow it. If it feels bad see what it is and heal it or reject it.

QUESTION EMOTIONS. It there is emotions involved it’s good to question things; emotions show us where we are a bit off and can get sidetracked. Emotions that pull us up and down are suspect. Even if you are over the top in a positive way, note where it may be out of truth. Emotions show us where we can heal to find balance and truth.

DISCERNING. Unknowingly we are the greatest liars to ourselves until we learn how to discern and know truth. There is no blame in this just a part of living in a world of illusions and stories to be okay in the world.

UNDERSTANDING CONFUSION. If there is confusion, there is both the truth and the lie at play and it is for you to sort it out. Our inner self knows the truth and is at odds with the lies that we accept or want to be true. This is what causes confusion. What we wish to be true does not make it true and puts a veil of suffering and pain over what is and keeps us stuck.

AWAKENING

AWAKENING

LOOK INSIDE. We are used to looking to others telling us the truth, and knowing better than us and for us, and who we are. As we step into our own inner wisdom and knowing we can see the world in new light.

HEALING. Healing the inner wars of ego allows you to relate to others in a balanced way. Our illusions and misperceptions are the result of past wounds in our life offered skewed perceptions. when we free us from this hidden pain and problems we are free to discern truth and live it.

INNER KNOWING. The journey of inner knowing and mastery is one worth taking. To know what you know and navigate the world from this place, creates a strong, full, clear life. Stop and pay attention to what you are engaged in. With inner reflection you find you know more than you own or speak.

ACCEPT TRUTH. Truth, like it or not, gives you strong information to work with firm ground to move forward with in our life. We have been trained to protect others and us from truth, when knowing and sharing truth makes everything work smoother.

SUPPORT YOU. The more you support you the more you can offer meaningful support to others. Love you enough to discover your inner truth and bring it to consciousness. Taking care of you allows the highest perspective allowing no illusions or detractors.

TRUST. When you know the highest truth you can live your highest potential. As you live truth you can know more about the truth in others and they will trust you as well.

LIVE TRUTH. The more you live and know truth the easier it is for you to see and navigate the world. Trusting your perceptions is easier when you are clear emotionally, mentally and your ego is balanced and strong.

RESPONSIBILITY. Truth evolves in its understanding as you awaken higher consciousness. As you take responsibility for your place in the world and in your life you can assist others do the same.

COMPASSION. When you can be compassionate and loving with others and know and live truth you are free. Compassion begins with you. Honoring you and that you are doing your best and have challenges too allows you to see the humanity and vulnerability in others too.

RENEWED LIFE

RENEWED LIFE

HIGHER GROUND. When you can be at total peace in the storms of life you have balanced ego and awakened soul.

This is a journey of awakening and becoming free. Life is simpler, easier and has more joy!

Blessings on your Journey,

Janet StraightArrow

Be The Medicine, Live the Power of You!

Call Janet today to expand the teachings and pathway above. The Path of self-mastery is one worth taking. Janet’s forty-seven years of study and practice offers a neutral, professional and grounded spiritual journey for those who are ready for depth and success.

Assisting you on your step-by-step evolution to freedom and fun from wherever you are is StraightArrow’s specialty. Having walked the walk, Janet offers you a direct path to enlightened full living in business, relationships, healing and everyday life and purpose.

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Janet StraightArrow Ready for the Adventure

Janet StraightArrow
Ready for the Adventure

 

 

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ENLIGHTENMENT IS A DIRECT PATH TO BE EXPERIENCED NOW

ITS ALL HERE NOW

ITS ALL HERE NOW

Helping people live their healing has taken me to discover ways to open them to experience the truth of who they are. In a world focused on anxiety and fear and right and wrong, our soul is our peace and comfort in the storm.

We have been trained not to trust us or be empowered to make healthy wise choices and know what is best for us. Giving our power to others beliefs and systems keeps us unsure of our own counsel.

Looking to fit in to everyone else, keeps us from settling in and trusting our own divine structure of truth, wisdom and joy. The masters have told us in traditions around the world that we have it inside. Lesser masters have then turned it around and used fear to give our power to them in religions, medicine, sciences, academia, politics and more.

To discover our soul it is for us to unlayer the lies we have embodied, believed and listen to inside our head. These emotion filled thoughts seem to come from us because we have taken them on and they have been residing with us all the time.

To discern and clear these thoughts and beliefs is to rebel against others beliefs, fears and structures, especially family, that we have been trained to be loyal to. For generations we would rather belong to bad company then break free on our own.

The fear of doing this is of being alone, when the truth is we find the experience of all one. Once you have tapped into this enlightening experience and keep living it you find wonderful supportive company in and outside of you.

HEART AND SOUL

HEART AND SOUL

Your soul is the truth of you and knows all things. There is no man in the sky that has more dominion over you than your soul. You soul is the voice of God in you and is comforting, intelligent and gentle in its delivery.

There is no fear or judgment or blame or shame in this highest experience of God. We surrender to God by being holy and happy and healthy and living by Universal laws and releasing man made laws that limit and hurt us all.

There is a peace that goes beyond understanding of the rules of man that make no sense. The rules of the divine universe are grounded, simple and real and do not mix and match with man’s rules that are not aligned with truth.

Love you enough to embark on the journey of inner discovery. You need not go to India or another country, state or continent. The beauty and truth of the universe and you are inside waiting for your attention.

Love you enough to take the direct path to you and love and truth and you will find wisdom and peace every moment.

Be The Medicine offers ways for you to release illusions and find truth in all areas of your life. Getting to the soul of you is the ultimate journey and experience. You then have the answers, healing and abundant peace, beauty and love.

May this inspire you to take the plunge and begin to relax and find the peace and joy and wisdom you have inside.

True enlightenment is the most grounded and real journey you will take.

Live the Power of You!

Live the Power of You!

Many Blessings on your Journey,

Janet StraightArrow

Be The Medicine, Live the Power of You!

Call, write and check out our websites. 973-6472500 Janet.Bethemedicine@gmail.com

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BEGIN TODAY Individual sessions and ongoing coaching is powerful in moving you directly into your all knowing self as we clear illusions and have fun healing our body, relationships and life in all ways. Success is easy because you know what to do and how to handle things from inner wisdom and grace

Fourteen years ago I discovered a practice that gives us direct access to the inner self and soul and offers clear direct access to healing ourselves of all illusions and pain and brings us into direct communication to the soul of us. I have developed and refined this practice while teaching thousands of people in small groups now I look to share this with larger groups to experience enlightened living and joy.

See the pages on Soul Shamanism on www.janetStraightArrowConsulting.com for more. Blessings, Janet

WHO PARTICIPATES? Professionals in many areas, including Medical, Therapists and Healing Practitioners who are ready to walk higher ground and release ego and illusions do well on this journey of life, health and success. All seekers who are ready to empower themselves and learn timeless wisdom and live it enjoy the journey as well.

TESTIMONIALS.

LIGHT AND LOVE

LIGHT AND LOVE

“I am so grateful for the work I have done with Janet and Be The Medicine in sessions and classes. Not only do I feel more comfortable in my body and life, I notice how important the work we do is to my profession and ability to be and do more than I knew possible. My gifts and purpose are unfolding with ease. The story of my life is becoming rich with deeper love and experience and losing the drama of my life before this time.” Wendy Kreiss-Parkin. Business Owner, Corporate Trainer, Healer

“Janet’s wit and wisdom rescues me from “falling off a cliff” or staying too long in the shadow of despair. She does it with grace and humor.  She has the innate ability to turn around what I perceive as a negative event and allows me to see the positive opportunity. We both end up laughing and I go forward with positive energy. Janet does not sugar coat her advice, rather it is “straight” talk and straight to the point.  Her name is not a random choice but reflects a true nature and identity. She does not coddle, but she is kind and compassionate.  The most important characteristic I value in Janet is her uncommon, “common sense” approach and her sense of humor. I believe she has special gifts to guide those who seek a higher truth about themselves and the world we live. “ Beverly S. MSN, FNP-C

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HEALTHY PARENTING – A VIEW ON HOW TO SUPPORT GENERATION Z THE WORLD AND YOU!

BREAKING THROUGH

BREAKING THROUGH

Waking up in 2014 requires a decision to solve the problems of the world beginning with our family and us. I met with a college administrator yesterday and she said they were being prepared for the newest generation Z to enter school this semester, known as those who want everything now. This is a huge problem of frustration that has taken several generations to develop in our society.

A big influence on now thinking is modern technology with instant everything, it is also about teaching children basic responsibility and life skills. As a society we have created young people who expect everything to be handed to them without responsibility for creating what they want.

The quality of education and services has gone down tremendously for over four decades. Standards of life have slacked off so bad that everything is falling apart in the world. People are busy pointing fingers and blaming instead of knowing how to stand up and make healthy changes that work.

Co-dependence and addiction of all things and behaviors is at an all time high as a way of coping. Parents are afraid to say no to their children, and allow unsafe and bad behavior and follow their requests at everyone’s peril. The fear is if we guide children and give them boundaries they may leave us.

MY LESSONS

As a parent, my fear was if I did not set good boundaries and teach my children valuing self and others, they would be lost. It was risky and not easy and yet it was what I knew was my more important job. Despite this my daughters were my friends and I was always the mother. I did not say no because of ego or control. I understood and tolerated normal rebellion, and when I said no it was because they needed to stop and learn their own inner knowing. It was far from easy.

In raising them I helped them develop their will, and I knew this was important to give them good understanding of their own individuality, choices and wisdom. I worried less and encouraged more and knew that they would learn by living instead of me telling them what to do or not do all the time. They proved me right more than not and became strong young women.

Our problems with parenting began with many generations calling the will a bad thing in a child or person. Parents thought their job was to tell kids what to do, think and feel. This practice stripped us of our confidence, and taught us to obey even when it was against us, and instead be good and follow society’s or family rules.

More recently parents have been trying different ways to evolve and support and change the earlier parents ways. Unfortunately the pendulum has gone to spoiling and not setting boundaries or teaching being responsible at all. What I realized is that parents first must learn to parent themselves where their parenting was unbalanced.

BE THE ANSWER

BE THE ANSWER

PARENTS NEED GROWING UP TOO.

In a healthy society, children sign up for a parent who cares enough, and loves them enough, to teach them how to take care of themselves safely. This requires parents to grow up and be responsible as well.

In our home there was kicking and screaming and wanting to run away a few times, and I needed to be strong and pay attention to what they needed to learn and also what I needed to change and learn as well. I was less concerned if my girls liked me than if their needs were being met.

My ex-husband and I worked hard and had abundant money and yet we gave the girls a budget and encouraged them to work for what they wanted as soon as they could. They learned to value everything and learned about people and how the world works too.

We were always a team as parents even when we divorced, and when the girls tried to play us against each other, we called the other parent, instead of being the child with them.

In my personal healing journey I have worked through my sixty-two years of being alive and saw the mistakes I made. I looked at my parents life as well and realized we are all wounded parents raising wounded children doing the best we know how.

I grew up with my children, and kept learning and making better aligned choices for them and myself. It is a process of evolving, healing and learning that never ends for all of us.

OPEN TO ALL POSSIBILITIES

OPEN TO ALL POSSIBILITIES

IT’S NEVER TOO LATE TO PARENT, OR GROW UP

Parents are doing for their children and giving them everything today more than ever. When they go to college and work they do not know how to earn their way and to figure it all out.

They want it their way now and make demands, hurl abuse and make excuses expecting others to tolerate this behavior. I have heard this from more than one college professional and employer.

People are lost and very angry and rebellious into their adulthood because they do not have the skills needed to cope and thrive in the world. They want everything to go their way without regard to the other people and circumstances that make up society. Blaming others occurs when you are not responsible and do not know how to do and be for yourself.

Over parenting and over soliciting is evident in children as a block as well. A child cannot sneeze or have a thought or action without going to the doctor or taking herbs and such or being psychoanalyzed or coddled. Hovering over each breath of the child so they do not have room to breathe chokes them into resentment.

Parents’ wonder why children rebel, one reason is because they do not want you to live through them; they need to learn to live well on their own and chose their own direction without worry of your judgment or expectations. Working parents may give too much to make up for being away, and stay at home parent’s hover and control and give too much too.

Love you enough to see where you can focus on raising your child to be self-sustaining and able to make healthy choices for themselves. Giving too much or doing it for them creates an imbalance and they know it. They feel helpless and angry.

Children resent a lack of courage and awareness to support their growth, and want you to stand up to them when they are hurting self and others. Fear of losing them will come true because they resent you for not supporting their individuality and need for their own experience to learn to run in their own direction. Or you may lose them to drugs or other escapes when they cannot cope with life and self.

Parenting and life are not easy and yet by you growing up, your children grow up too. Love everyone enough to sit back and see where you need to pay attention. Our world depends on the children of today who will be tomorrow’s leaders.

ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE

ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE

IT ALL BEGINS WITH LOVE

Raise children and you to be loving responsible people with your own unique gifts and strengths. Do not do their homework or make excuses for them, or you. Encourage them to succeed and allow them to fail so that they learn how to adapt and grow and succeed in the future.

Love them enough to pay attention when they hurl abuses on you. Maybe there is something in you that needs to grow up and change as well.

Loving your children begins with loving and knowing you. You teach by how you live. Your children will learn from how you are in relationship with others, and how you take care of you. They will either follow or do the opposite, and be mad at you if you do not give them a healthy example.

The best parenting is to support your child’s learning and growth by giving them a wide berth and responding when they give you feedback of their needs through anger, as well as love.

Love everyone enough to learn and change no matter the age. It is never too late for all of us to grow up and live happy, healthy and free.

Life is a journey of learning. Never give up on opportunities to make significant changes that will change your life and the world. When each person wakes up to their best self and lives it, the affect on many is significant.

“The best way to live the innocence of a child is to be a grown up first.” JSA

PS. My oldest daughter called me after she left home at the age of twenty and said, “Mom, I do not know how you put up with me. Thank You for letting me live. I would not have.” She was correct, she was the most challenging person in my life everyday, and that phone call was worth it all. My daughters have been my greatest teachers and helped me with my journey all the way.

May you find blessings and grace as we all grow up together.

Enjoy the Journey,

Janet StraightArrow

Be The Medicine, Live the Power of You!

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